Against everything that I believe in, I rejoined Saw You at Sinai, and my gosh. So far, I have gotten matched with the following:
1. A college classmate’s ex-husband. He lives nearby and seems like a nice guy. I never met him in relation to her. But he rejected me. Alas.
2. Brooklyn “modern black hat” guy, the type who doesn’t realize that Art Scroll is biased and doesn’t see that it’s a big deal just to go with the flow even if everyone is wrong.
3. The most average guy on jdate (this is through SYAS, I emphasize): secular, no Jewish education at all, completely clicheed profile (“I like to wear jeans and tuxes, and I like to have fun”), 7 years older, went to a third tier university and works in a generic business job, and on top of everything, he lives hundreds of miles away. I turned him down with a polite note to the shadchan. Two minutes later, I get:
4. Same as above, though slightly better written – this guy is “strong outside and sensitive inside” – except also 11 years older. WTF.
5. A guy who calls twice in one day, a third time the following day, I apologize for being slow for getting back to him in an email but I’ve been busy for concrete reasons, calls a few more times, and then writes a huffy email about how I was blowing him off and closes the match. Okay, I didn’t have to do anything there to discover bad qualities.
6. Four past dates. One of them is someone I may try to talk to again since it’s been awhile and we match up well on paper, and our original date was while I was living much farther away than I am now. But he kind of turns my stomach. That’s a bad sign, right?
7. A few other guys who have both unremarkable educational backgrounds and whose profile are just 2 clicheed sentences long. I’m glad they’re forward about not being so articulate, but writing a decent profile is so relatively easy. You can either spend 100k and 4 years to get a good college degree or you can spend 4 hours writing a lively and original profile, and both can give you the same effect.
On the other hand, I’m talking with a secular guy from jdate who writes extremely well, kept me laughing for an entire 20 minute phone conversation last night (I told him at the beginning of the conversation that I had to get off at a certain time), and has some serious interests in Judaism due to a Livnot trip. Thank you, Livnot! You’re a kiddush hashem.
